Are You in Love with a Person, or an Idea?
This experience translates the core message of the report "Are You in Love with a Person, or an Idea of Them?" into an interactive format. We often mistake the "sparkle on the surface"—the initial attraction and shared jokes—for love itself. This is like admiring the sunlight on the ocean but ignoring the vast, deep water beneath. This guide will help you journey from that shimmering surface to the profound depths of what makes a connection authentic and lasting. You will explore the illusions that can trap us, understand the psychological blueprints that guide our relationships, and discover practical ways to cultivate a love that is as deep and resilient as the ocean itself.
The Architecture of Illusion
Love's most common imposters are idealization and limerence. While they can feel intensely romantic, they are relationships with a fantasy, not a real person. This section helps you distinguish between these illusions and authentic love.
Limerence vs. Love: A Visual Comparison
Your Relational Blueprint
Our earliest bonds form an "internal working model" that shapes our adult relationships. Understanding your attachment style can reveal why you might be drawn to idealization or fear intimacy. Click on a style to learn more and see its core fear visualized.
A Practical Guide to Deeper Waters
Moving from illusion to authenticity requires honest self-reflection. This short quiz is a tool to help you appraise your own connection. Your answers are private and will only be used to generate a reflection for you at the end.